"Harmony exists in difference no less than in likeness"
-Margret Fuller
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Individual
Therapy for NT Partners
Individuals in long term relationships with neurodiverse partners particularly ones on the spectrum may suffer from a from of relationship trauma called Cassandra Affective Deprivation Disorder. They face a profound struggle to communicate effectively with their ND partner or have their feelings and perspectives acknowledged. This continual lack of validation and understanding can lead to significant emotional distress, anxiety, and even depression. I have extensive experience working with spouses of partners who are on the autism spectrum or have ADHD and face this and other challenges. I am here to support you in your journey to reconnect with yourself and...
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Neurodiverse couples require unique strategies specific to thier dynamic. When a couple learns they are neurodiverse (one partner or both with Autism, ADHD or other differences in wiring) it can be a relief after years of frustration and disconnection. Neurotypical partners often feel gaslighted by their neurodivergent partner leading to serious mental health challenges. The Neurodiverse partner can feel misunderstood, overwhelmed and, in turn, shut down. There are proven ways to rebuild a healthier, happier connection. The first step is to help couples identify just how differences in wiring affect interaction cycles...
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Compassionate communication is the bedrock of healthy attachment. My process starts with listening and validating each partner's unique emotional truth. I then de-escalate, examine the negative cycle and return the couple to basics to restructure communication patterns. Once safety is created, deeper unspoken needs and wounds can be explored. I am focused on creating a safe environment in order to foster vulnerability and increased intimacy. I take an eclectic approach using methodologies that are backed by research. Whatever the theory, research shows the most important element of effective couples work is...
About
Joseph Kaiser
Are you and your partner speaking a different language? Are you hurting over not being heard? As a specialist in both neurotypical and neurodiverse couples, I bring a unique blend of life experience and professional expertise to help you nurture a thriving relationship. My goal is to empower deeper connection through the use of dynamic evidence-based theories and therapeutic rapport. At Together Diverse I will work with you to develop an understanding of each other's needs and help you establish new healthy communication patterns that foster greater intimacy. I came to be a Marriage and Family Therapist later in life after years in advertising and running small businesses. It affords me the ability to connect with a wide variety of people and personalities. I hold a BA in Psychology from the University of California Berkeley and an MA in Marriage and Family Therapy from The Chicago School of Professional Psychology.
